For many families, drop-off and pick-up times can feel like emotional rollercoasters. One moment your child is clinging to you, unsure about what’s next. The next, they’re overwhelmed by the change in routine or the noise of the environment. These transitions—especially in ABA therapy or school settings—are important moments that can set the tone for your child’s day.
The good news? With a few simple strategies, these transition times can become smoother, less stressful, and even confidence-building for your child.
Why Transitions Can Be Challenging
Transitions like drop-off and pick-up involve several changes happening all at once: the environment, the people, the activities, and even expectations. For children with autism or related diagnoses, these shifts can feel unpredictable or overstimulating.
Even positive changes—like seeing a beloved Behavior Technician—require your child to shift gears. That’s why it’s helpful to approach these moments with intention and support.
Setting the Stage: Before You Arrive
Helping your child feel prepared starts before you even leave home. Try these proactive approaches:
- Talk through what to expect
Keep your language simple and predictable: “We’re going to ABA. First we drive, then we say hi to your therapist, then you play.” - Use visual supports
A simple visual schedule or picture card can show the sequence of events: car → drop-off → playtime → pickup → home. - Give reminders about transitions
Let your child know what’s coming up. “In 5 minutes, we’ll get in the car. Then we’ll go see your therapist.”
During Drop-Off: Creating a Calm Routine
It’s natural for some children to feel anxious or unsure during drop-off. A consistent routine can help make this moment feel more predictable:
- Keep it short and steady
A quick goodbye with a consistent phrase—like “Have a great time, I’ll see you later!”—gives clear closure and reassurance. Long goodbyes can increase anxiety. - Use transitional objects
If appropriate, your child might benefit from bringing a familiar item (like a small toy or fidget) from home to ease the transition. - Partner with your therapy team
Behavior Technicians are trained to help with this moment. Let them know what’s worked for your child in the past or any changes in their morning routine.
At Pick-Up: Reconnecting with Support
When it’s time to reunite, your child may be excited, tired, or even dysregulated depending on how their day went. Here’s how you can support them:
- Allow space for decompression
Some kids need a moment to adjust when leaving a structured environment. Keep greetings low-pressure and give your child space to transition out. - Celebrate small wins
“You worked hard today!” or “You came back with your backpack—awesome job!” reinforces your child’s effort, no matter how big or small. - Maintain consistency
Having a predictable pick-up routine can help your child know what’s next. “Now we’re going home to have a snack and rest.”
Supporting Transitions With ABA Strategies
Your child’s ABA team may already be incorporating transition planning into therapy. You can continue the support at home by:
- Practicing transitions during non-stressful times
Use simple routines like getting ready for bed or going outside to help your child practice following steps with clear cues and expectations. - Modeling calm behavior
Children often take emotional cues from adults. If you stay calm and predictable during drop-off and pick-up, it helps your child feel more secure. - Using reinforcement effectively
Offering praise, tokens, or other rewards for smooth transitions helps motivate your child and teaches that these moments can feel successful.
Final Thoughts
Transitions are more than just moments in between. They’re opportunities to build trust, teach independence, and create confidence in your child’s daily routine. Whether drop-off feels like a breeze or brings big emotions, small changes—like visual cues, routines, and positive reinforcement—can make a lasting difference.
At Alora, we understand how important these moments are. Our team works with families to make transitions smoother, more predictable, and better supported—because every part of the day matters.